Keeping Friends or Letting Go!
Today, I am going to write about friendship. When I think of the word, friendship, I think share, love, understanding, close association, unity, harmony, laughter, peace, and much more. Coincidentally, some of my thoughts resonate with the meaning of friendship as defined by the dictionary. It would seem the meaning of friendship changes as I grow older and I want to think I now understand more.
Friendship during my nursery and primary, and secondary school days was mainly constitutive of sharing our lunch contents especially during school breaks when we would each share what we brought from home. This aspect of sharing could be heartbreaking particularly in times when one was not in position to share either because it was too nice or because there was nothing to share. Some friendship became compromised because some pupils always brought goodies to school, but others struggled to come with a pack. Friendship was solidified for those who always shared and was jeopardised when pupils had nothing to share. However, being at primary school, we always had a way of quickly forgetting the material particularly during games like hopscotch, "dodging" (I 'd call it dodge the ball), the tack game, and many more. In the beauty of our innocence, the lack of lunch during break easily faded as we could all play in a group whether or not you had a lunch pack. I used to bother on days I did not have anything to share with other friends, but I shouldn't have because friendship is not uniquely about sharing goods, it is also about sharing moments of fun, digging deep into someone's core to cause them smile even if they are under stress.
It's been quite a while on the road to friendship, and I have some excellent people as friends some of whom are family members. When I think friendship, I think of what it should be and often times, denounce what it should not be. However, I forget that friends are made of humans and in humans are found a multiplicity of errors. Friendship should not be a burden; it should be a blessing. Wrong. It should be a blessing and a burden. When it is a blessing, yes! When it is a burden, learn and correct each other. I say this, but I find it absolutely hard to be burdened by friends as I believe that people are mature and should know when not to cross boundaries. I guess it is time to alter it. Friendship is about crying and laughing with each other. If no one is prepared to laugh with you and cry with you down the path of friendship, it was never worth it. Simply move on!
To be honest, I have hardly referred to my friends as friends because the term friendship lacks the glue which could completely stick people together. I refer to my friends as sister and brother because such references speak volumes. Employing sisters and brothers to replace friends reveals the extent to which one bonds with the other person, and also unravels the sacrifices one is able to make for another person under the umbrella of friendship. So most often, you are my sister or brother not a friend. Calling someone sister makes me feel comfortable in going an extra mile for them.
In all this, I have lived to understand that friendship is a process-it never ends for in every new beginning, there's always a sister or brother to walk with you or place rocks on your path. What's left for you to do, is to choose them, wisely.
Friendship during my nursery and primary, and secondary school days was mainly constitutive of sharing our lunch contents especially during school breaks when we would each share what we brought from home. This aspect of sharing could be heartbreaking particularly in times when one was not in position to share either because it was too nice or because there was nothing to share. Some friendship became compromised because some pupils always brought goodies to school, but others struggled to come with a pack. Friendship was solidified for those who always shared and was jeopardised when pupils had nothing to share. However, being at primary school, we always had a way of quickly forgetting the material particularly during games like hopscotch, "dodging" (I 'd call it dodge the ball), the tack game, and many more. In the beauty of our innocence, the lack of lunch during break easily faded as we could all play in a group whether or not you had a lunch pack. I used to bother on days I did not have anything to share with other friends, but I shouldn't have because friendship is not uniquely about sharing goods, it is also about sharing moments of fun, digging deep into someone's core to cause them smile even if they are under stress.
It's been quite a while on the road to friendship, and I have some excellent people as friends some of whom are family members. When I think friendship, I think of what it should be and often times, denounce what it should not be. However, I forget that friends are made of humans and in humans are found a multiplicity of errors. Friendship should not be a burden; it should be a blessing. Wrong. It should be a blessing and a burden. When it is a blessing, yes! When it is a burden, learn and correct each other. I say this, but I find it absolutely hard to be burdened by friends as I believe that people are mature and should know when not to cross boundaries. I guess it is time to alter it. Friendship is about crying and laughing with each other. If no one is prepared to laugh with you and cry with you down the path of friendship, it was never worth it. Simply move on!
To be honest, I have hardly referred to my friends as friends because the term friendship lacks the glue which could completely stick people together. I refer to my friends as sister and brother because such references speak volumes. Employing sisters and brothers to replace friends reveals the extent to which one bonds with the other person, and also unravels the sacrifices one is able to make for another person under the umbrella of friendship. So most often, you are my sister or brother not a friend. Calling someone sister makes me feel comfortable in going an extra mile for them.
In all this, I have lived to understand that friendship is a process-it never ends for in every new beginning, there's always a sister or brother to walk with you or place rocks on your path. What's left for you to do, is to choose them, wisely.
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