View on Marriage

Relationships, marriage, and getting entangled in a life-time commitment are subjects I have often refrained my self from expressing an opinion. Until recently, I would have genuinely thought that advice on relationships are mere gibberish based on the supposition that topics on relationships are subjective, but then again we are humans with similarities in our experiences. I am not an expert in relationships, but having been in it, I think I can draw lessons from my individual experience to have a one-sided view of it. Now, lets see what marriage is all about? To you my little new sister who just got the ring, I want to say it is a decision you've made and like every decision, you must have weighed your options and decided on what suits you. Now that he tends to be the chosen one, and you've accepted, it does not end there. There are days you would wonder whether your decision was right, you would imagine that life would have been better if you picked on another person. When those imaginations run wild, I want you to tell your brain to stop the nonsense, because even if you got married to another person, you'd still wonder what life would be like with another. Are you happy? Is your spouse happy? Then stop wondering and live the happy moments for many a thought come to rip off the joy we experience in our various unions. Let your decision be final unless he becomes abusive and even if he does, you must try to seek means through which you can resolve any differences and if he fails to see light, then it is better to opt out of any abusive relationship. There are days you would feel like you would have been better off if you were single, but wake up, you ain't single; not anymore and going back to being single won't make you better. There shall be highs and lows, but the most important thing to do is to employ reason in every circumstance. What I mean is that reason should govern your union more than emotions. You'll come to days when you feel like you struggle to pass across a point, but oh boy, you've got to strike a balance-pass the message, but be calm and firm. Being loud is very destructive. You will of course have children, and when you are preggy (upload), your primary thoughts would be to download (put to birth).

But you must know and take this pretty seriously that downloading is just the tip of the iceberg. You've got a beautiful soul, a human being into the world. It is your responsibility no matter the odds to keep your sanity and bring up the new soul and body in a way that would be of greater human value. This means, you would feel asleep, but you won't sleep, you would want to do the things you did before but you'd be unable most times. The children should be priority-top on your list and as you think for yourself you must think for them. Most importantly, you must teach them early enough to have independent thoughts (the ability to reason out things in a way that is of benefit to them and their respective communities). The joy is seeing them grow exactly-evidence of the hard work you put into them. These children are your seeds on earth; if you nurture them, tend to them, then they will bear fruits. How do you nurture them to bear fruits? You must equip them with the tools that will enable them soar-basically, teach them how to fish. Have I said too much? This is my little note to you little sis and may God be the lead in all that you do. You cannot keep him aside not for a split second. What a way to end your year. Congrats to you both W & Val. lots of love and a very merry Christmas!!!